Rewiring your brain is one of the common terms that have made a revolutionary change in the field of psychology. In recent times, from the psychiatrist to the common people everyone talks about it.
The pressure of postmodern life, the rush to earn more money in a short time, the urge to be more successful in any field have led human beings to become machine-like. We need to change the tumultuous condition of our psyche.
The thoughts that roam around our brains don’t just randomly come to our minds. We allow those to get entry. So, if we keep a watchdog here you can surely rewire your brain for happiness.
Your thoughts are the result of the ideas you take in your mind from daily life. One single idea is enough to interrupt your way of thinking and adopt a new course of life.
Take some new ideas from here and change your million-year-old thinking pattern. I hope this will help you retrain your brain.
Success is only an inch away from you
If you are thinking you are on the right track to achieve your goal you are not correct. If you think you are miles away from your dream, that is a false idea that keeps haunting you. Let me give you an example here. A cosmetic surgeon once said “the difference between you looking unattractive and like a supermodel is in a few patches of your face” Yes, that is the thing.
Tiger Woods, one of the best golfer in the history said “the difference between getting the ball close to the hole on the first shot, and hitting the ball in the water, is a millimeter either side of your swing”
I hope you understand now. A little change in your thinking can change the whole thing.
Well, it may seem unclear to you at first. Let me clarify that to you. The thing you say “no” has a big impact on what you do. Anyone can guess what kind of personality you have from the things you say “no” to.
“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.” — Warren Buffett
What does this genius guy mean? Most of the successful people say “no” to almost everything. They don’t accept the proposal to waste time on silly things, they don’t accept the food that will harm their body. They say no to all those stuff that will have no positive impact on their life.
Almost similarly Aristotle said in his own language “We are what we repeatedly do.” So, beware of saying yes to something. If that can bring a hurdle in the long run you had better reject that.
They say “don’t blame people for making you upset or for disappointing you, rather blame yourself for expecting more than you should. Yes, the more you expect the more chance there are you will become an unhappy person.
I know some people who silently expect people to serve them well, and when people do not fulfill what they were expecting that makes them upset.
There is an extreme connection between happiness and expectation. If you expect nothing from people, you can appreciate the little thing they will offer you. So, how to how to rewire your brain so that expect less from people? Here is some tiny advice to make you able to expect less from people.
- Accept the reality
- Do your work yourself
- Do not judge people
- Be grateful to people
- Spend on yourself
- Give priority to others
- Watch on your expectation
Don’t be a blind follower
In this era of social media, it is a click away to see how people are living their life. We become fond of other’s lifestyles. Some of us want to do what others are doing. If you want to rewire your brain for happiness then an important step is to stop following people blindly. The things people keep posting on social media mostly don’t match with their real life.
For this reason, many psychiatrists suggest their patients avoid social media. Seeing the posts of social media we feel like we have nothing in life. But we have a family, friends, caring partner. What else we need to be happy with? By copying blindly we will just make our life a mess. Because what people are doing may suit their context and lifestyles whereas it might be irrelevant for our life.
Appreciate what you have
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” Dale Carnegie
Many of us think that if you want to be happy you need many things. Whatever they see, they think this thing can make them happy. They always have a scarcity mindset. They think they are lacking something to be happy. To rewire your brain to be happy you need to tell your brain to stop wanting more.
If you focus on your life you already have so many things to appreciate. You overlook those things. Do not underestimate the little things in your life. Do not become obsessed with achieving something too big that you start ignoring the small things in your life.
Just think for a while, the thing you are leading your life with is many people’s lifetime dream. They cannot afford to buy those things.
Do the things you always wanted to
Sometimes we keep postponing the things we want to do. Your mind will show you a thousand reasons to prolong it. Let me tell you one thing. Procrastination is the key to failure in every sector. We all have some special tasks that we are postponing for a long time. Once we do it, we will become mentally happy. I always wanted to go on a foreign trip. But even after having enough money and time, I was keeping it aside. But inside, I was becoming tired of everything. I needed a break. So I immediately made a plan and just left for a tour. That freshened me up.
If you are also doing something like that, do not continue delaying. One thing I have realized in my life that life is too short to waste time on planning. Just do it. Do it now. Who knows how many days we have to live?
Accept the failure
Thomas Alva Edison said: “I haven’t failed, I have just found 10000 ways that won’t work.”
All the great people who we name as an example of successful people started their journey with failure. You have to understand that failure is the start of the journey. If you fail to do anything one way, start doing it in another way. Get all the failures of your life together and someday you will see these have become a monstrous success. That’s why someone said “if you haven’t failed, that means you haven’t tried”
Become the catalyst of change
You may think that great achievements belong to only great people. But this is not the truth. The great people are just like you and me. To rewire your brain is to recognize this reality. To make it clear, you can do a case study on the life of successful people in different sectors. You will see that they are coming from the background not superior to you and me.
Just, for example, I am putting a name here with their background, so that you can get inspired by that. Late Indian president APJ Abdul Kalam came from a rural area of India and became the president of the country. He had no modern facilities but one day he became one of the most successful people in India.
So, it’s completely up to you whether you become the reason for your change or not.
“When you start loving yourself and respecting your time and energy, things will change. Get to know your worth, and your value will go up.” Germany Kent
A simple equation is working here. If you can love yourself, only then you will start taking care of yourself. You will work hard to make your dream come true. You will make the best use of your time. So, instead of running after love from others, we should invest our time in ourselves. If we can do this perfect love will come to us. We don’t need to crave for others, rather everyone will crave for us.
Action is what matters
Well, I can keep on writing about how to rewire your brain for happiness and you can keep reading. But ultimately you have to do what you should. Nothing will work unless you start working.
“Don’t wait for things to happen. Make them happen.” Roy T. Bennett
Having so much knowledge of life, your career will be in vain if you do not work. No one can do that in your favor. So, do not waste time waiting for good days to come. Rather bring good days by working hard. Because life is too short to waste time on silly things. Who knows, tomorrow you may die, or you may face an accident. You may not be in a condition to work. So, whatever you are planning, do it now.
If we start seeing life on the basis of what we have we will discover a thousand reasons to be happy. We all have so many things that people dream of. Still, we are not as happy as we should be. Because we take too much stress on us about silly matters. We should accept the failure and appreciate the little things we have. We should love ourselves, only then rewiring our brain will work.